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§ IDENTITIE

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First Nations Art Centre
Planned for Institute

Harald Gravelsins

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A Student At Forty-Five
Hadley Steve Grace Salez

A collaboration of mind,
body, and art.

Breaking through the barriers of

School’s namesake would definitely approve. adult education.

Matters in dispute include

Dad’s affair and Elvie’s Famuly =

who gets the car.

compiled by Harald Gravelsins

amilies are the people you probably
have the most to learn from about
who you are. They are the people you
are stuck with for life, even if you do
not get along or cannot support each
other in what you do.

If you can learn to be civil and loving and
respectful to these people, you will have made your-
self whole. But that takes effort from other family
members as well. : :

The note in Dad’s -wallet said, “Three years.
Mission accomplished! Three years ago you changed — -
my life. Don’t complain about the conflict I caused

- you...”

It was my brother Anthony who found the note.
Dad had asked him to look through his coat pocket
for something. As he flipped through Dad’s stuff,
maybe a bit too thoroughly for whatever he was
asked to find, what caught his eye were the words “I
love you” on a piece of paper. He took the note and
carried it around with him for six months — didn’t
tell anyone. Finally he told me about it.

We pretty well figured the note was for a secre-
tary at Dad’s work. Anthony wanted to stalk Dad to
find out more. He was sure the people at Dad’s work
world tell him where Dad had gone to lunch and
that he would find him there with the woman.

My brother Rob didn’t want us to talk to Dad
about the affair. He said, “Let’s just let it go. Let’s just
let things sink back to normal. I’m good at pretend-
ing, and I can pretend everything is okay. Let’s just
forget it ever happened. Besides, Dad knows you two
better anyway. All he does with me is joke around,
and I just joke back to keep things pleasant.”

My brothers are so different. | think I'm the
in-between, even though I’m the oldest. Anthony is
impulsive. All he knows is what he feels, which makes
him smart in a way. He uses anger to get what he scmdetasinne gaps.

wants, to get others to back down, to give in to him.

Rob is quite the opposite. He’s the scientist. He
lives in his head. He’s very judgmental and often
doesn’t approve of what Anthony does.

Anthony is just different — he doesn’t fit in. I
don’t know where he gets it from. He’s really neat
and I admire him. But when he was little, Rob and I
were constant companions, and we ended up leaving |
Anthony out of our adventures because he was too
young. I only really started talking to Anthony when
he was fourteen and I was eighteen. Until then, I
thought we would never get along at all.

Rob has disciplined himself to have the patience
to observe things. He thinks very hard about stuff.
And he also keeps everything he thinks about very

much in his head.
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Matters in dispute include
Dad’s affair and

who gets the car.

compiled by Harald Gravelsins

miles are the people you probably
have the most to lesen from about
‘who you are. They are the peopl you
ae stuck wth for if, even if you do
not get along or cannot support ach
‘other in what you do,

IF you can learn to be civil and loving and
respectfl to these people, you will have made your
self whole. But that takes effort from other family
members as wel

‘The note in Dads wallet sid, “Three yeu
“Mision secomplished! Thee eat go you changed
‘ny lif. Dont complain about the cont I caused
ou

ewas my brother Anthony who found the note
ad hd sked im to look through his coat pocket
for something. As he flipped through Dads stuf,
maybe a bit too thoroughly for whatever he was
asked to ind, what caught his eye were the words "I
love you om a piece of paper He took the note and
‘atid it around with him for sx months ~ didnt
tel anyone. Finally he tld me about it

‘We pretty well give the note was for a secre
tary at Dad's work. Anthony’ wanted to stalk Dad to
find out more. He was sure the peopl t Das ork
wold tll him where Dad had gone to lunch and
{that he would find him there with the wom

My brother Rob didnt want us to tlk to Dad
aout the aft He sai “Lets et it go. Lets just
let thing sink back to normal. 'm good at pretend-
Jing and I can pretend everything is okay. Let’ just
forget it ever happened Besides, Dad knows you two
better anyway. All he does with me is joke around,
and just joke back to keep things pleasant

My brothers are so diferent. 1 think Tm the
in-between, even though Fm the oldest. Anthony is

sive. Alle knows i what he fes hich makes

him smart in a way. He uses anger to get what he
wants to gt others to back down, t give in to him

Rob is quite the opposite. He's the scientist He
lives im his head. He's very judgmental and often
Aoest approve of what Anthony docs.

Anthony i just diferent ~ he does it in.
don't know where he ges it fom. Hes realy neat
and {admire him. But when he was ite, Rob and |
‘were constant companions and we ended up leaving
‘Anthony out of our adventures because he was oo
young, only
he was fourteen and 1 was eighteen. Uni
thought we would never get along tall

Rob has diciplined himself 1 have the patience
to observe things. He thinks very hard about tu
‘And he also keeps everything he thnks about very
‘mach in his head.

ony when

iy started talking to

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IDENTITIES

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Planned for Institute

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Pinkorangebiue A Student At Forty-ive
Hadley steve race See